None of us look forward to the experience of criticism. Criticism can tear us down and overtime can cause to think we are unlikeable failures. Feedback is received well when someone says they think we are doing good in one area but see where we could improve. The text of Ephesians 4:25-32 gives us some clear rules for governing our … Read More
Longing for More
We long for a more personal and intimate relationship with God. Our hearts crave a connection with God from His Word. We have knowledge of the Word but something is missing. We live in a high-performance culture, where holding to deep spiritual values is not regarded as the greatest treasure. In the pressure to perform we are tempted to look … Read More
Detach to Attach
Have you ever found yourself enslaved to something? Enslavement occurs for most of us at the level of habit. Liberation also takes place at the level of habit. There are two basic points of view that influence our choices. We can summarize the first with the phase, “The one with the most toys wins.” This is a way of life … Read More
Time to Retreat
When the gridlock of your schedule is relentlessly controlling you, when your heart is beating against the prison walls of your enslavement to the task list, it is time to spend time with the Lord. Is it time to step away and follow the pattern of Jesus’ life? He sought times of quiet solitude. “In the morning, while it was … Read More
Get in Condition
It is by trial and error, by frustration and dryness that I have learned that I cannot order up a praying heart. I have had to learn how to get myself in the frame of mind and condition to pray. It is important to understand how to start yourself off, and it is in this place that is crucial that … Read More
Tyranny of the Urgent
t The demanding moments in life can crowd out more important priorities that ultimately are of greater consequence. When we are in a constant state of emergency we can find it difficult to step back and make thoughtful decisions. Urgency was the culture of the company in which Deb worked. She was very task oriented and reacted to the demands … Read More
Power of the Positive
Mental energy is derived from positive thinking. Negative thoughts can help to direct our attention to important needs that are not being met. It could be a need for food, rest, or an imminent threat of danger that is presenting itself to us. Amanda had a very negative way of looking at the world. It robbed her of satisfaction and … Read More
Sabbath Compass
We have a desire to succeed, to meet every growing expectation. We do not rest and lose our way. We miss the compass points that would show us where to go. We miss the quiet that gives us wisdom. The pressure of frenetic activity is corrosive and has an effect on us and others. We push our bodies beyond what … Read More
Discernment
Interest is growing among Christians who want to deepen their experience of God and to discern their life choices in a prayerful way. We need a method for discerning major life decisions and noticing God’s presence. In counseling we are often asked to assist people facing major life changes. They want to make a decision congruent with God’s call on … Read More
Are You Only Halfway?
There are plenty of us who are half-way Christians. We will give up possessions, power, position, and friends and still not be able to submit ourselves in total obedience to God. It is difficult for us to submit ourselves in complete unreserved obedience to the Lord. Luke 11:34 says, “Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eye … Read More