Relationships Fail or Thrive

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Relationships are hard work.  Some days it seems impossible to get along and love each other well.  There are a lot of reasons why relationships fail.  Our communication can tear us apart, but God gives us a means to enhance our speech.  There are five distinct reasons why relationships fail and four relational means to enhance and protect. Signs of … Read More

Heart Work

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Repentance is a hard word for us to hear because it can strike our hearts to fear of criticism or abandonment.  God always has a bigger and better plan for us if we open our hearts to hear.  Psalm 51 has been a useful psalm for the community of God’s people as guide to lead in understanding the beauty and … Read More

Do You Fear the Fight?

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Conflict is everywhere.  In our world of sin and shame unity and love are hard-won achievements.  The goal is to learn to persevere and fight with wisdom and humility. What is your conflict style?  Do you doggedly hound a person for resolution?  Are you an avoider?  Do you fear difficult conversations minimizing and sidestepping any way you can?  Do you … Read More

Conforming to Reforming

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Who are we as biblical counselors?  We are called to be helpful, but first and foremost, we must be found to be faithful, safe, and truthful.  If we are not these things our counseling relationships will fail to be a place where counselees can bring the truth about themselves. A counselee will often bring truth that they fear to express.  … Read More

Deception and Power

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It is of vital importance that we wrestle with the issues of power and deception.  As believers and leaders, we never want to hear the word “woe” from God.  This is what He spoke to the shepherds of Israel in the book of Ezekiel 34:4.  “Those who are sickly you have not strengthened, the diseased you have not healed, the … Read More

Detach to Attach

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Have you ever found yourself enslaved to something? Enslavement occurs for most of us at the level of habit.  Liberation also takes place at the level of habit.  There are two basic points of view that influence our choices.  We can summarize the first with the phase, “The one with the most toys wins.”  This is a way of life … Read More

Time to Retreat

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When the gridlock of your schedule is relentlessly controlling you, when your heart is beating against the prison walls of your enslavement to the task list, it is time to spend time with the Lord.  Is it time to step away and follow the pattern of Jesus’ life?  He sought times of quiet solitude.  “In the morning, while it was … Read More

Good Grief

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As much as we try to avoid it, in this world we have grief.  It is a necessary process by which we mend and heal.  If we avoid the pain of grief it will fester causing us to become stuck.  The truth teaches us that we are going to grieve losses.  To not face the pain is to be out … Read More

Enslaved by Memories

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The memories of past trials and trauma can live in our hearts and minds like a second person inside waiting to reach out at any time to corrode the day.  The common memory of the present day restores us to normal and offers a detached framework from the memory of trauma and trials.  To live in the present is to … Read More

Brave or Safe

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Deep within us is the yearning to be brave.  Courage empowers us to do the right thing even in the face of fear.  Why does it matter so much to our souls to do the right thing rather than the safe thing?  It points to the nature and delight of our Creator.  When we think about being brave we can … Read More